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Mastery Mondays

Personal Development

Pushing Forward When You Want To Quit

Lately I’ve had a few hard days where I just feel like quitting. Sometimes the effort required to maintain certain aspects of life just does not feel like it matches the output.

I’m sure we all feel that way from time to time about different things. I think about things like trying to lose weight and how hard that can be. It feels like you put SO.MUCH.EFFORT into eating less, cutting back on the sugar, exercising, and all the things to MAYBE lose 1-2 pounds in a week.

It sometimes just feels like you’d be better off to quit. But the fact of the matter is that if you quit, you will NEVER accomplish your goals. Conversely, if you keep pushing forward (even when you want to quit), you have a high likelihood of reaching your goals.

Consistency is tough - especially on the days that you just feel like quitting. But that’s where grit and determination come in. It’s remembering why the goal matters to you and having the discipline to take the steps forward toward your goal, even when it feels futile. 

So in the last little while when I’ve felt like quitting on my goals, I’m reminding myself that consistency is not the same as perfection. I’m also working hard on being a person who is disciplined to take the right steps forward toward the life that I want to live.

Recommended Book

How To Quit Smoking and Save Your Life

Dec 01, 2015
ISBN: 9780981179520

Interesting Fact #1

When things get tough, you’ll ask yourself, “Why am I putting myself through this?” And you should have a good answer. Be ready with answers for all your mind’s weaseling.

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Interesting Fact #2

If you’re ready to quit, commit to starting your quit 3-7 days from now. Mark it on your calendar and tell everyone about it. Make this a big deal in your head, so that you’re fully committed.

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Interesting Fact #3

Tell all your friends to hold you accountable, and to ask daily for updates. Create a blog just for this change, and share it with everyone you know on social media and elsewhere. Join an online forum about quitting this kind of habit, and ask for their support. Get an accountability partner who you give regular updates to, and who you have to call if you are getting a really strong urge.

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Quote of the day

“Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.” ― Lance Armstrong Sally Jenkins

Article of the day - How to Break Bad Habits and Change Behaviors

Old habits vs new habits, life change concept written on sand

Old habits can be hard to break, and new habits hard to make. But with these six basic steps, you can develop new, healthy behaviors that stick.

Can You Retrain Your Brain?

Mike wrote a list:

  • Make a healthy snack.
  • Go to the gym.
  • Don’t waste time on cell phone.
  • Read a classic novel.
  • Housetrain Rex.

Just 24 hours later, Mike munched celery sticks while reading his favorite classic novel. His legs were sore after an hour on the treadmill, while Rex waited patiently by the back door to go out …

Do you believe this? Probably not.

In reality, Mike was on the couch, one hand in a bag of chips, the other on his cell phone. The unopened gym bag and copy of his classic novel was on the floor, which Rex had soiled once again.

That’s more plausible, right? We all know habits don’t change overnight — not for simple doggies and not for big-brained human beings. But research shows that just like Rex can learn that he should go potty outside instead of on Mike’s gym bag, you can rewire your brain to change your habits. We humans just need a subtler approach than a few treats and “good boys” to change our ways.

Here’s how Mike (and you) can better understand how habits form and how to replace bad ones with good ones.

6 Steps to Changing Habits

  1. Identify cues.
    Something has to trigger a habit, and a cue can be anything. Maybe stress makes you crave chocolate, or the sound of your alarm triggers you to hit the snooze button. Identifying cues helps you understand what puts your habits into motion.

  2. Disrupt.
    Once you know the cues, you can throw bad habits off track. If the alarm cues you to bash the snooze button every morning, put the alarm clock on the other side of the room. Trekking across the floor will likely disrupt the snooze habit.
     
  3. Replace.
    Research shows that replacing a bad behavior with a good one is more effective than stopping the bad behavior alone. The new behavior “interferes” with the old habit and prevents your brain from going into autopilot. Deciding to eat fruit every time your mind thinks “cookie” substitutes a positive behavior for the negative habit.

  4. Keep It simple.
    It’s usually hard to change a habit because the behavior has become easy and automatic. The opposite is true, too: New behaviors can be hard because your brain’s basal ganglia, the “autopilot” part, hasn’t taken over this behavior yet. Simplifying new behaviors helps you integrate them into your autopilot routines.

  5. Think long-term.
    Habits often form because they satisfy short-term impulses, the way chewing on your nails might immediately calm your nerves. But short-term desires often have long-term consequences, such as nasty, splintered, chewed-up fingers. Focusing long term while trying to change some habits will help you remember why you’re investing in the effort.

  6. Persist.
    Research has shown that what you’ve done before is a strong indicator of what you’ll do next. This means established habits are hard to break. But if you keep at it, your new behaviors will turn into habits, too. Persistence works — at first it might be painful to get up at 5 a.m. for that jog, but soon it will be second nature.

Let’s check back in with Mike. He gave it another go with these tips in mind. This time, he tossed the chips and replaced them with veggies; when his brain craved salty, fried potatoes, it found carrots instead. He promised himself that when he was tempted to spend too much time on his cell phone, he’d disrupt the urge by picking up a book instead.

Finally, Mike kept his gym bag in the car so he couldn’t forget it again — the first step toward forming a 15-minutes-on-the-treadmill-during-lunch habit. (And don’t worry about Rex — it turns out his potty problems weren’t a bad habit at all, but a protest to get attention from a neglectful owner who played on his phone too much. This problem resolved itself.)

So, habits can be changed, and with a bit of time and some effort, healthy behaviors can become second nature. Now get on it, so you can be Healthy for Good!

Question of the day - What is a goal that you are working towards right now that feels extra challenging?

Personal Development

What is a goal that you are working towards right now that feels extra challenging?